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On our first date, Lucy told me that she was attending couples counseling with her husband. They were separated, but when they were together their marriage had been open. Recently healed from a broken heart—another married woman who, in the end, did not leave her husband—I was turned off. Still, I thought perhaps we could be friends. Maybe we could even be friends who slept together without emotional attachment. Casual intimacy had been a…

There is a common ingredient to all writing I find most compelling: soul-baring honesty. This is true for both fiction and nonfiction. Most of what’s considered nonfiction is actually fiction, as it’s necessarily filtered through a perception shaped by beliefs and experiences and opinions and biases. But when a writer testifies — when she writes what she knows in her blood and does it unabashedly — that’s the best kind of writing.

My agent recently…